Never Go To The Second Location
Without Prejudice
A Gentleman appeared on Oprah in 1991, his name was Sanford Strong, a former policeman and survival techniques expert with the San Diego Police Department for twenty years.
For some reason I was home that day and watched the show. The tips and rules have stayed with me after 26 years. Lessons I will never ever forget.
The main one that stuck with me was
" Never Go To The Second Location ", chances are you will die.
I know you have probably heard of the joke on 30 Rock by Carrie Fisher that parodies a very serious saying,
" Never Go To A Second Location with a Hippie"
( It will probably be to a Burning Man or Vegan restaurant -----in which case you would rather be dead )
But all jokes aside I can't stress this enough, Never, ever go to a second location with a predator, the chances are that you will die. The criminal, rapist, child molestor needs isolation and control to perpetrate his crime. And that involves The Second Location. Whether it's a clump of bushes five feet away, a car, an abandoned house, an alley, it is a must to avoid what could be the last place you ever get to see.
Don't be a victim, don't think this should not be happening, it is happening and you do have to deal with it.
The first few seconds are the most important. It's been proven the more time you allow things to happen, the more is going to happen. Scream, run, fight, kick out at him, even if he has a weapon. The alternative is death so it's not a hard decision to make.
Resist, resist, resist. As in most things in life, the cavalry ain't coming, so whatever you have to do to survive, do it. Don't hesitate, don't overthink, don't plead, beg for your life, appeal to his better self, most perpetrators are career criminals and he has been thinking about this for a while.
More often than not you will not be the first person he has attacked. Not the first time he has attacked in this particular way, there will be a history.
A criminal once said,
" If people realised that we have been tracking them for at least a week, there would be a lot more people looking over their shoulder "
I had four daughters myself, many girlfriends, and female acquaintances that I have passed this advice on to.
Lock your car doors when you are inside it, even in daylight but always, always at night even if you are jumping out of the car just for a few minutes to rush into the milk bar to grab a bottle of milk.
One of Paul Denyers ( A Melbourne, Australia serial killer ) victims was a young Mum who drove to the local shop to do just that. Leaving her new born baby with a male friend at home in her unit while she fetched milk for coffee for her visitor. She left her car unlocked and by the time she returned her killer was hidden in the back seat. He had a knife.
Another young woman stopped at the seven eleven in a local suburb, leaving the doors to her station wagon unlocked. By the time she drove twenty feet away the male hidden in the back rose up and held a knife to her throat. Luckily she was a quick thinking woman and didn't hesitate in slamming on the brakes and jumping out in to traffic. She lived.
I know of a young girl that had a fight with her Mother and took off on a train to a club house a few suburbs away from home. A friendly guy on the train introduced himself, told her she was so pretty, sat her on his knee, named friends he knew at the Club House she was going to.
Offered to escort her to the Club House.
He took her to an abandoned house instead.
Within a few seconds she said he turned from a smiling friendly guy to a rapist. He held her against a plate glass door with a screwdriver held against her stomach.
He seemed to take great delight in telling her that he was going to rape her. She said she had her period.
He told her to fellate him, she refused. He told her he knew she had a child and would kill him.
He took himself in hand and masturbated on her. She told him anything to get away, that she would drop her boyfriend for him, that she would see him again, she was just a little shy with the sex part.
She didn't cry, act scared, just calm and normal realising if she screamed no one would hear her anyway. She was finally allowed to go as he knew she was expected at the Club House and he knew several members there.
When she arrived she said nothing to anyone but sat in a corner quietly. The Club leader who was a scary guy, with leather jacket and piercings asked her what was going on, where had she been, she was late, he pressed her so hard she told him everything. He rang the police and then took her to hospital.
He knew the guy that tried to rape her. He pleaded guilty to sexual assault, a plea bargain. He was given 5 years. He went on to rape again on his release.
.
A Gentleman appeared on Oprah in 1991, his name was Sanford Strong, a former policeman and survival techniques expert with the San Diego Police Department for twenty years.
For some reason I was home that day and watched the show. The tips and rules have stayed with me after 26 years. Lessons I will never ever forget.
The main one that stuck with me was
" Never Go To The Second Location ", chances are you will die.
I know you have probably heard of the joke on 30 Rock by Carrie Fisher that parodies a very serious saying,
" Never Go To A Second Location with a Hippie"
( It will probably be to a Burning Man or Vegan restaurant -----in which case you would rather be dead )
But all jokes aside I can't stress this enough, Never, ever go to a second location with a predator, the chances are that you will die. The criminal, rapist, child molestor needs isolation and control to perpetrate his crime. And that involves The Second Location. Whether it's a clump of bushes five feet away, a car, an abandoned house, an alley, it is a must to avoid what could be the last place you ever get to see.
Don't be a victim, don't think this should not be happening, it is happening and you do have to deal with it.
The first few seconds are the most important. It's been proven the more time you allow things to happen, the more is going to happen. Scream, run, fight, kick out at him, even if he has a weapon. The alternative is death so it's not a hard decision to make.
Resist, resist, resist. As in most things in life, the cavalry ain't coming, so whatever you have to do to survive, do it. Don't hesitate, don't overthink, don't plead, beg for your life, appeal to his better self, most perpetrators are career criminals and he has been thinking about this for a while.
More often than not you will not be the first person he has attacked. Not the first time he has attacked in this particular way, there will be a history.
A criminal once said,
" If people realised that we have been tracking them for at least a week, there would be a lot more people looking over their shoulder "
I had four daughters myself, many girlfriends, and female acquaintances that I have passed this advice on to.
Lock your car doors when you are inside it, even in daylight but always, always at night even if you are jumping out of the car just for a few minutes to rush into the milk bar to grab a bottle of milk.
One of Paul Denyers ( A Melbourne, Australia serial killer ) victims was a young Mum who drove to the local shop to do just that. Leaving her new born baby with a male friend at home in her unit while she fetched milk for coffee for her visitor. She left her car unlocked and by the time she returned her killer was hidden in the back seat. He had a knife.
Another young woman stopped at the seven eleven in a local suburb, leaving the doors to her station wagon unlocked. By the time she drove twenty feet away the male hidden in the back rose up and held a knife to her throat. Luckily she was a quick thinking woman and didn't hesitate in slamming on the brakes and jumping out in to traffic. She lived.
I know of a young girl that had a fight with her Mother and took off on a train to a club house a few suburbs away from home. A friendly guy on the train introduced himself, told her she was so pretty, sat her on his knee, named friends he knew at the Club House she was going to.
Offered to escort her to the Club House.
He took her to an abandoned house instead.
Within a few seconds she said he turned from a smiling friendly guy to a rapist. He held her against a plate glass door with a screwdriver held against her stomach.
He seemed to take great delight in telling her that he was going to rape her. She said she had her period.
He told her to fellate him, she refused. He told her he knew she had a child and would kill him.
He took himself in hand and masturbated on her. She told him anything to get away, that she would drop her boyfriend for him, that she would see him again, she was just a little shy with the sex part.
She didn't cry, act scared, just calm and normal realising if she screamed no one would hear her anyway. She was finally allowed to go as he knew she was expected at the Club House and he knew several members there.
When she arrived she said nothing to anyone but sat in a corner quietly. The Club leader who was a scary guy, with leather jacket and piercings asked her what was going on, where had she been, she was late, he pressed her so hard she told him everything. He rang the police and then took her to hospital.
He knew the guy that tried to rape her. He pleaded guilty to sexual assault, a plea bargain. He was given 5 years. He went on to rape again on his release.
.