Living Suddenly
Without Prejudice
If we accept that we can die suddenly why oh why can't we also start to live, suddenly.???
People that have been close to death know how precious it is to live, smell the air, see the colours in nature, in all it's grand sumptous beauty. Treat others kindly and forgive their enemies. Just glad of one thing, they are alive.
Why can't we be more like that? Take away the never ending surge of information available to us and get back to simple, basic things.
Tend a garden, feed a horse by hand and watch it's longer then believable lashes sweep it's eyes in bliss, with apple juice and saliva running down your hand. Pick up a child and hug and kiss and see the wonder in their eyes at new objects.
Watch them tenderly as they sleep, your heart beating with a contented rhythm. Listen to music old and new and keep it in your heart. Love people with all their shams and ordinariness and bless that they are in your life.
Enemies too. Don't forget the enemies as they teach us important lessons about ourselves, our friends too, the honest ones.
Be a friend and tell it like it is with honesty as the other person may be struggling and doesn't need to hear lies or evasions. And let them tell it like it is to you.
And with the ones you love treasure them like fine china. They are yours on loan and you do your best with them and let them go when they grow as far as they can with you.
And be glad of that as you have so much more to do.
Listen to people and what are they saying, really. What lies behind the layers of civility and nice words or hatred screaming in your face.
"What's behind it ?"
Be glad you are here and taking this unbelievable journey and it's a good one if we make it a good one. Take the opportunity to get out and look at the country, drink it in. The clean air, the trees, the hills and valleys and stray sheep and cows just being what they are, perfect.
Hang around with people that make you happy and feel motivated and love you. Trust them and yourself that you will make the right decision as people are basically good.
Don't believe everything you hear or read but only what you see. Seeing is believing and as for yourself don't have things to prove or let the hurts slung by others shake your belief in yourself.
Be with people who actively like and trust you. be that trustworthy person to others, Hold out the hand of friendship to people and remember they are struggling with something, just like you.
Avoid the loud and aggressive people, they have issues of their own, wish them well and leave them alone and they will leave you alone. Hug someone that is hurting. Be there for them in thought, mind and deed. Potential nothing without putting it in to action.
Be aware that there is true love and it exists and is better than sex. Sex should be sacrosanct so be with someone that you care for and not as just a showing off as your prowess. Those that can do and those that can't talk.
Unless you are very young and in the mood to experiment and be safe, always be safe. No one life time of passion, ( that is bound to turn any ones head, ) but not to to end up with a lifetime of misery.
Be brave and be prepared to walk out into the dark and scary night, not hesitantly, but boldly.
Don't tolerate bullies, they are basically stupid and ignorant and need help, nut yours, their own.
Be prepared to accept jealousy and envy in to your life as both will motivate you, hopefully to be better and better and really show them up. And when you make it be humble and give a lot of it away to deserving souls who are doing great work for others.
Adopt, foster or have kids as they are for most ordinary people a source of great times and love and support. Everyone returns to family when they fall down, and we all fall down. All of us.
Try and make life decisions on what it is you want for yourself and if you are with the wrong person be brave enough to say you have made a mistake and leave them with as much gentleness as possible.
Love with all your heart, there's no point otherwise. be interesting and curious, a wide eyed virgin. Be demonstrative and spontaneous.
Comfort and convenience are the Kiss of Death "
Love people that you are close to and show them every day and have fun, laugh at life as it's ridiculous at times and we all are human after all.
Miss people when they leave and honour their memory, they were important to you once, respect that and don't become bitter and miss other opportunities because of them, and the heartache you feel, thats important too. Cry when You are sad, really cry and breakdown on your own of course, and regret and beat your own head in and you will feel better, really you will.
Deal with anger and frustration on an inanimate object, it lessens stress and makes you feel better. Know that you are not in the struggle on your own. There are far more people that love and support you than you realise.
Celebrate every birthday, and for men, that is every one you remember. Love one man or woman at at time. Don't stay in an empty relationship or marriage for the sake of the kids, the kids will survive, you won't. Find a partner in life who sees things as you do and wants to have fun. A sense of humour more sexy than anything else.
But be attracted to that person, not just the outside but by the inside too. A good person with a backbone that won't put up with garbage and has your back at all times, even when they know you are completely wrong.
Persuade, love, be happy and the others will follow. Don't be scared to take a risk or feel like an idiot. We all do.
Deflate your ego, there will always be someone smarter, better looking, richer than you. That's the way it is, but with all its frustrations and hurts, with all it's beauty and great Joy its your life and you need to go out and make it extraordinary .
Love Janette
If we accept that we can die suddenly why oh why can't we also start to live, suddenly.???
People that have been close to death know how precious it is to live, smell the air, see the colours in nature, in all it's grand sumptous beauty. Treat others kindly and forgive their enemies. Just glad of one thing, they are alive.
Why can't we be more like that? Take away the never ending surge of information available to us and get back to simple, basic things.
Tend a garden, feed a horse by hand and watch it's longer then believable lashes sweep it's eyes in bliss, with apple juice and saliva running down your hand. Pick up a child and hug and kiss and see the wonder in their eyes at new objects.
Watch them tenderly as they sleep, your heart beating with a contented rhythm. Listen to music old and new and keep it in your heart. Love people with all their shams and ordinariness and bless that they are in your life.
Enemies too. Don't forget the enemies as they teach us important lessons about ourselves, our friends too, the honest ones.
Be a friend and tell it like it is with honesty as the other person may be struggling and doesn't need to hear lies or evasions. And let them tell it like it is to you.
And with the ones you love treasure them like fine china. They are yours on loan and you do your best with them and let them go when they grow as far as they can with you.
And be glad of that as you have so much more to do.
Listen to people and what are they saying, really. What lies behind the layers of civility and nice words or hatred screaming in your face.
"What's behind it ?"
Be glad you are here and taking this unbelievable journey and it's a good one if we make it a good one. Take the opportunity to get out and look at the country, drink it in. The clean air, the trees, the hills and valleys and stray sheep and cows just being what they are, perfect.
Hang around with people that make you happy and feel motivated and love you. Trust them and yourself that you will make the right decision as people are basically good.
Don't believe everything you hear or read but only what you see. Seeing is believing and as for yourself don't have things to prove or let the hurts slung by others shake your belief in yourself.
Be with people who actively like and trust you. be that trustworthy person to others, Hold out the hand of friendship to people and remember they are struggling with something, just like you.
Avoid the loud and aggressive people, they have issues of their own, wish them well and leave them alone and they will leave you alone. Hug someone that is hurting. Be there for them in thought, mind and deed. Potential nothing without putting it in to action.
Be aware that there is true love and it exists and is better than sex. Sex should be sacrosanct so be with someone that you care for and not as just a showing off as your prowess. Those that can do and those that can't talk.
Unless you are very young and in the mood to experiment and be safe, always be safe. No one life time of passion, ( that is bound to turn any ones head, ) but not to to end up with a lifetime of misery.
Be brave and be prepared to walk out into the dark and scary night, not hesitantly, but boldly.
Don't tolerate bullies, they are basically stupid and ignorant and need help, nut yours, their own.
Be prepared to accept jealousy and envy in to your life as both will motivate you, hopefully to be better and better and really show them up. And when you make it be humble and give a lot of it away to deserving souls who are doing great work for others.
Adopt, foster or have kids as they are for most ordinary people a source of great times and love and support. Everyone returns to family when they fall down, and we all fall down. All of us.
Try and make life decisions on what it is you want for yourself and if you are with the wrong person be brave enough to say you have made a mistake and leave them with as much gentleness as possible.
Love with all your heart, there's no point otherwise. be interesting and curious, a wide eyed virgin. Be demonstrative and spontaneous.
Comfort and convenience are the Kiss of Death "
Love people that you are close to and show them every day and have fun, laugh at life as it's ridiculous at times and we all are human after all.
Miss people when they leave and honour their memory, they were important to you once, respect that and don't become bitter and miss other opportunities because of them, and the heartache you feel, thats important too. Cry when You are sad, really cry and breakdown on your own of course, and regret and beat your own head in and you will feel better, really you will.
Deal with anger and frustration on an inanimate object, it lessens stress and makes you feel better. Know that you are not in the struggle on your own. There are far more people that love and support you than you realise.
Celebrate every birthday, and for men, that is every one you remember. Love one man or woman at at time. Don't stay in an empty relationship or marriage for the sake of the kids, the kids will survive, you won't. Find a partner in life who sees things as you do and wants to have fun. A sense of humour more sexy than anything else.
But be attracted to that person, not just the outside but by the inside too. A good person with a backbone that won't put up with garbage and has your back at all times, even when they know you are completely wrong.
Persuade, love, be happy and the others will follow. Don't be scared to take a risk or feel like an idiot. We all do.
Deflate your ego, there will always be someone smarter, better looking, richer than you. That's the way it is, but with all its frustrations and hurts, with all it's beauty and great Joy its your life and you need to go out and make it extraordinary .
Love Janette
