Domestic Violence And Nigella Lawson
Without Prejudice
Domestic violence will play out in all sorts of situations. Covers every strata of society. It's not just for the poor. As witnessed by the recent incident with the world famous chef, Nigella Lawson. Domestic violence is always the fault of the offender. What is surprising is that other people didn't step in, but took photos instead. Some times it takes a bigger bully to stop the violence.
It makes Charles Saatchi look like every other bully that inflicts domestic violence on a woman. The battle is never equal. A man will always have the upper hand in that situation. He's bigger. It's that simple. I know of very few women that can match a man in body strength. I wonder how long Nigella has been putting up with that menacing behaviour in silence. Too ashamed to get help.
Well, she needs help.
I'm glad to see she has taken her teenage son and left the house today with a suitcase. Nothing changes domestic violence. It is what it is. Some men are quite happy to cross that line, hurt a woman.
I'm glad it's so high profile as it will help shine a light on domestic violence. Gone are the days when a man can beat his wife and that is what he is, a simple wife beater.
He is no different, being a billionaire than an undershirted drunk menace from Doveton, drunk and calling his wife names. You can not imagine what damage that does to a woman, the lasting effects of being called dumb, fat, lazy, stupid.
It begins with little or no respect. Verbal abuse, emotional abuse that then can turn to physical abuse. Men need to realise this awful fact. And women need to realise that it's not O.K. If you know of someone in this situation, step in and help, urge them to get help, counselling, stay safe.
The women are often scared for their children, their lives, their children's lives, but stay safe yourself and urge her to get help. If you witness domestic violence get other men to step in, say things, like,
" I saw what you did and Im calling the Police "
"What you did, is not O.K. "
Stop the violence if you can but definitely call the Police and help the woman to safety.
The other side of domestic violence is that it's not always violent. That there is love and affection. Charm and sweetness can go hand in hand with the violence. There will be love and care that confuses the victim. Maybe there is a lot invested in the relationship, marriage. Money, property, kids. But there is no other answer than to leave.
Most human beings are scared of change. Fear it. But swallow the fear. You have to leave the relationship
"As it is "
There is no hope for change while you are willing to put up with the Status Quo. No amount of wishing, hoping, enough love applied will change things. I have done them all.
The situation us like treading on egg shells. As you never know what is going to trigger violence you can become inert. Never knowing what to do so you end up doing nothing. One day this, the next day that. You have to realise the problem, The "Elephant in the Lounge Room " , is not going to be discussed.
And you could end up badly hurt, or your kids. No property, money, furniture, "stuff" is going to be worth that.
My Dad always said to me, until I was prepared to walk out the door with my kids and nothing else was I ready to leave.
Domestic violence will play out in all sorts of situations. Covers every strata of society. It's not just for the poor. As witnessed by the recent incident with the world famous chef, Nigella Lawson. Domestic violence is always the fault of the offender. What is surprising is that other people didn't step in, but took photos instead. Some times it takes a bigger bully to stop the violence.
It makes Charles Saatchi look like every other bully that inflicts domestic violence on a woman. The battle is never equal. A man will always have the upper hand in that situation. He's bigger. It's that simple. I know of very few women that can match a man in body strength. I wonder how long Nigella has been putting up with that menacing behaviour in silence. Too ashamed to get help.
Well, she needs help.
I'm glad to see she has taken her teenage son and left the house today with a suitcase. Nothing changes domestic violence. It is what it is. Some men are quite happy to cross that line, hurt a woman.
I'm glad it's so high profile as it will help shine a light on domestic violence. Gone are the days when a man can beat his wife and that is what he is, a simple wife beater.
He is no different, being a billionaire than an undershirted drunk menace from Doveton, drunk and calling his wife names. You can not imagine what damage that does to a woman, the lasting effects of being called dumb, fat, lazy, stupid.
It begins with little or no respect. Verbal abuse, emotional abuse that then can turn to physical abuse. Men need to realise this awful fact. And women need to realise that it's not O.K. If you know of someone in this situation, step in and help, urge them to get help, counselling, stay safe.
The women are often scared for their children, their lives, their children's lives, but stay safe yourself and urge her to get help. If you witness domestic violence get other men to step in, say things, like,
" I saw what you did and Im calling the Police "
"What you did, is not O.K. "
Stop the violence if you can but definitely call the Police and help the woman to safety.
The other side of domestic violence is that it's not always violent. That there is love and affection. Charm and sweetness can go hand in hand with the violence. There will be love and care that confuses the victim. Maybe there is a lot invested in the relationship, marriage. Money, property, kids. But there is no other answer than to leave.
Most human beings are scared of change. Fear it. But swallow the fear. You have to leave the relationship
"As it is "
There is no hope for change while you are willing to put up with the Status Quo. No amount of wishing, hoping, enough love applied will change things. I have done them all.
The situation us like treading on egg shells. As you never know what is going to trigger violence you can become inert. Never knowing what to do so you end up doing nothing. One day this, the next day that. You have to realise the problem, The "Elephant in the Lounge Room " , is not going to be discussed.
And you could end up badly hurt, or your kids. No property, money, furniture, "stuff" is going to be worth that.
My Dad always said to me, until I was prepared to walk out the door with my kids and nothing else was I ready to leave.
