Therapy Works. Sandy Hook

Without Prejudice

For the families of the children that died in the U.S.A, my heart goes out to them at Christmas. I know what they are going to go through for so many Christmases to come.

You will not have any sort of normal life for at least six years.

You will want to grab a child of five or six and run.

You will want to touch their hair.

You will hate the world

You will hate other parents for a while that have a child that is the age your child was and wonder why they are blessed and you are not.

You will bargain with God.

You will cry in the car and pull over as you don't want to kill other people.

You will wonder why you.

You will jump at loud noises and loud voices for the rest of your life.

You will canonize your child.

You will throw away sympathy cards and then rescue them.

You will bury your head in your child's clothes and sniff and remember.

You will lie on their bed, and dry eyed think what is the point of living.

You will hate God.

You will hate every Birthday, anniversary, ground hog day as it means your child is is not here.

You will cry at every wedding and funeral. My advice, in time, don't go to funerals.

You will want to kill yourself, and entertain the idea, but discard it.

You will find a way to cope and live "Around It"

You will laugh again and feel guilty.

You will feel guilty.

You will want to be with other people that have also lost a child.

You will move forward one minute, one hour, one day at a time.

You will realise that you are here for a reason.

You will realise your child was here for a reason.

You will ignore people that say down the track, it's been a long time. For you it will be like yesterday, every day.

You will think you will go mad.

You won't go mad, nor die, unless you make a concious choice, which is just selfish..

You will feel like an insect on a pin, struggling to live, at times.

You will eventually be able to live, normally

You will honour child, every day, in deed and thought.

But get help, and the best help you can afford. Go to the appointments, even if you feel it is hopeless.

Look after yourself.

Don't bury yourself in pills, drugs or alcohol.

You will forgive.

You will rage at your child.

All if these things are normal and are to be expected.

I send you my understanding and love.  Xxx

Love Janette