Where Have All The Real Men Gone ???
Without Prejudice
It used to be that there were strong decent men around. Men that kept the younger men in line. Made them act like Gentlemen and uphold responsibilities, act like real men should. Like Gregory Peck in to Kill A Mocking Bird. Where are they? Have we lost them to post feminism ? Have all men now some sort of jaded view of Women? That we are all gold digging Bitches that are out to emasculate Men ?\
That men have to have what they want and completely disregard the needs of their wives and kids. One marriage in two ends in Divorce. When did the commitment to marriage become a non commitment ? That it is now viewed as something you can just step out of when the going gets tough? It's always going to be tough. Marriage is daily, it's every day, day in and day out.
You are bringing together two totally unalike people. People that are from different backgrounds, different ideas, different families, different everything. They are men and women. Men think differently to women and vice versa. How on earth is it going to work without huge compromise on all sides. Men need women in their lives. Women need men, why can't it be like that. Like a comfortable old shoe that fits.
Men replace and women grieve. I have never known a woman that wants to deliberately fuck up a marriage, she has invested time and faith and hope in. She hates the thought of failing or not giving her kids the best that they can have. A woman leaves five years after she should have. And she wants Him to leave as it's easier on the kids and her.
But men rarely leave. Only if they are madly in love with someone else usually. And that would have to be a strong love as he can have his cake and eat it too. Most women will turn a blind eye to her husbands affairs to keep the family together. I have known women that have accepted their husbands back after he has had an affair. I don't know too many husbands like that. That's because it strikes at his ego. The male ego.
I know of women who have allowed husbands back after he has had a child to another woman. I don't know too many men like that. I am not a man hater, I just see a vast difference in the way we think. And that we can't resolve, it's biology. I find most men a bit shallow actually. I have yet to find more than 5 who are capable of being faithful. And yet I know tons of women that never would be unfaithful nor do they want to be. Women don't have the sort of egos men have.
Anyway thats by the by as I just want to know where are the men that should step up, be mentors to so many young males now of single Mums. ? Do we always have to raise the kids without male influence ? How can we teach young men to be real men when we are women ?? We can't teach them the ways of males, we are not male. So how do those young men, become real men ??? Just wondering and pondering today .
Love Janette
It used to be that there were strong decent men around. Men that kept the younger men in line. Made them act like Gentlemen and uphold responsibilities, act like real men should. Like Gregory Peck in to Kill A Mocking Bird. Where are they? Have we lost them to post feminism ? Have all men now some sort of jaded view of Women? That we are all gold digging Bitches that are out to emasculate Men ?\
That men have to have what they want and completely disregard the needs of their wives and kids. One marriage in two ends in Divorce. When did the commitment to marriage become a non commitment ? That it is now viewed as something you can just step out of when the going gets tough? It's always going to be tough. Marriage is daily, it's every day, day in and day out.
You are bringing together two totally unalike people. People that are from different backgrounds, different ideas, different families, different everything. They are men and women. Men think differently to women and vice versa. How on earth is it going to work without huge compromise on all sides. Men need women in their lives. Women need men, why can't it be like that. Like a comfortable old shoe that fits.
Men replace and women grieve. I have never known a woman that wants to deliberately fuck up a marriage, she has invested time and faith and hope in. She hates the thought of failing or not giving her kids the best that they can have. A woman leaves five years after she should have. And she wants Him to leave as it's easier on the kids and her.
But men rarely leave. Only if they are madly in love with someone else usually. And that would have to be a strong love as he can have his cake and eat it too. Most women will turn a blind eye to her husbands affairs to keep the family together. I have known women that have accepted their husbands back after he has had an affair. I don't know too many husbands like that. That's because it strikes at his ego. The male ego.
I know of women who have allowed husbands back after he has had a child to another woman. I don't know too many men like that. I am not a man hater, I just see a vast difference in the way we think. And that we can't resolve, it's biology. I find most men a bit shallow actually. I have yet to find more than 5 who are capable of being faithful. And yet I know tons of women that never would be unfaithful nor do they want to be. Women don't have the sort of egos men have.
Anyway thats by the by as I just want to know where are the men that should step up, be mentors to so many young males now of single Mums. ? Do we always have to raise the kids without male influence ? How can we teach young men to be real men when we are women ?? We can't teach them the ways of males, we are not male. So how do those young men, become real men ??? Just wondering and pondering today .
Love Janette
